Saturday, March 7, 2009
"All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another".
Since the beggining of our times, we go through constant changing, sometimes without even noticing. It feels like we've just woke up to a new world.
Most people don't deal well with change. Starting from they usual morning routines, probably even using the same brand of shampoo for years, even the furniture in the same place and so on, they've created a comfort zone that they want to keep.
If you find yourself facing a big change- like switching schools, moving, your parents are divorcing- What type of person are you? Do you go forward with enthusiasm or cower in the corner?
I'm sure nobody trains themselves or knows ahead exactly what to expect when they're facing a major change. But there are some facts you can be sure of, such as mixed emotions, as changes may seem good and bad at the same time. It is normal I guess to feel a little scared. For those with braver personalities, change is one more adventure on life’s road, and the curiosity of what's ahead takes over and they go easier through changes.
Being scared or race ahead to see what's over the next hill are both normal responses to dealing with changes.
To cope easier with changes you have to understand your hesitation. Dealing with new situations, new people, new decisions might be overwhelming and stressfull. You should focus on the positive, even though it is not always easy to look on the bright side, it is still there. Everything happens for a reason, if you're moving away you can make a fresh start, meet interesting people, learn about and get to know a new place. That doesn't mean you lose your friends forever, and if it is a difficult situation don't hesitate to ask them for help if you need it. There are some changes none of us want to face. When life hits you with a change that threatens to throw you completely off course, don't be afraid to ask others to help you be strong. After all, there’s strength in numbers.
In the end you should see change as an opportunity to grow. Different situations might stretch you in ways you never would have been stretched if life had stayed the same. You could discover talents or interests you never thought of before.
Being afraid doesn't let you feel free, step out in the sunlight and face a new day.